The G-man and I have been talking on and off for the last few months about…wait for it...having a baby. A constant concern for both of us is our finances. It bothers him more than me but considering I grew up poor for a good part of my life it does concern me as well… to an extent. But as times goes on we keep coming back to the idea and it seems as though we are getting more and more “on board”. The recent situation with my dad really brought things into perspective for me. One of the very first thoughts I had when G told me that my Mom had had the stroke was that she will never meet her grandchildren should we decide to have them. Now with what’s going on with Dad, when it first happened, I told myself that if by some miracle he maked a recovery from the heart attack, I wanted to have a baby. G warned me not to let the intensity of the situation cloud my judgment but I offered that perhaps it was giving me clarity on what is important…family. G came back from his tour with the band at the end of June and it seemed as if over the 12 days he was away, it occupied a lot of his thoughts because he brought it up on numerous occasions.
I asked him when he thought a good time would be to start trying. He said that maybe next February and at first I was disappointed because now that the idea is in my head I was thinking that upon no further bookings for The Overcoat over the next 9 months (or more) following San Fran, and during the waiting period for the selling of Exotic Fishing Adventures (I expect that a pregnant woman in a bikini going on exotic fishing tours isn’t going to bring in the viewers) I didn’t see why we couldn’t start in November. If it happened right away we could potentially have an August baby…hmmm a Virgo perhaps?
Recently the conversations have dropped off but now I can’t stop thinking about it. I know I can bring it up at any point without fear of freaking him out but without any answers to my questions or a definate plan in place, it seems sort of “girly” to keep talking about it. And it seems pointless to talk to my friends and family about it as well without and firm (no pun intended...dirty mind...dirty dirty mind) decision regarding the whole thing. So, I’m writing about it.
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A Baby with G? Does gary know about this G guy?
i stumbled onto your blog and had to make a comment....
my husband and i couldn't decide what was the right time to start trying for a baby (assuming that we even wanted one). shortly after we started discussing it, my dad was in a very serious car accident. basically, it is a miracle that he lived at all, and a true miracle that he walked away with only a bruise on his arm. i decided right then and there that wanted my child(ren) to know my parents. so....scary as that is, we were pregnant 30 days later.
two things...if you wait for the right time financially, it will never be right. talk to anyone...most everyone felt the budget was squeezed so tight when they had their first child. you just get over it. secondly...i know that's it's so cliche to say this, but you truly won't care about that stuff once your baby is born. it's the greatest thing we ever did.
good luck with you decision!
(the profile pic is my daughter, who's 2 1/2, and another one is due in nov. i didn't think i'd do this once, let alone twice!)
glad to hear it and good luck! remember to have fun trying ;)
Crazy times, Cyndi, but you guys have to decide together what is the right time. I know for me personally, having too grown up with parents who constantly worried about money, that we would have to be financially and emotionally stable enough to take on the HUGENESS of a baby (and let's not even talk about your vagina's size vs that hugeness - another post all together). That being said, the joy a baby will bring you, nothing can beat that (listen to me - I'm saying NICE things about babies!). But I mean it - emotions are running high, but if you guys feel it's the right time, then it's the right time. Only you guys will know.
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