I am always getting my butt kicked by my preconceived expectations!! I don't know when I'm going to learn my lesson and just wait to experience a situation before I decide how it's going to be.
It gets me into trouble in my relationships, both personal and intimate. It gets me into trouble in my job-life. Time and time again.
This morning I was on my way to a new temp assignment that I was having some reservations about as I "expected" it to be A LOT of work. I've worked with this woman before for her personal business but never for at her job job. Knowing what I know about working directly for her, I "expected" the next two weeks to be very long. I get to the assignment and realize I'm actually covering for her today. I was under the impression I was going to be helping her get caught up after being away for three months. The only thing my temp agent told me was "you'll be helping her" and I came up with the scenario of getting her caught up meaning tons of work!
Now, the reality is that I don't think she was supposed to be away today. Something came up and I "expect" she will be back next week. Turns out they don't need me because her replacement has been found and next week she'll be training her to take over her job; she's retiring. So I'll never really find out what the job was supposed to be.
It gets me into trouble in my relationships, both personal and intimate. It gets me into trouble in my job-life. Time and time again.
This morning I was on my way to a new temp assignment that I was having some reservations about as I "expected" it to be A LOT of work. I've worked with this woman before for her personal business but never for at her job job. Knowing what I know about working directly for her, I "expected" the next two weeks to be very long. I get to the assignment and realize I'm actually covering for her today. I was under the impression I was going to be helping her get caught up after being away for three months. The only thing my temp agent told me was "you'll be helping her" and I came up with the scenario of getting her caught up meaning tons of work!
Now, the reality is that I don't think she was supposed to be away today. Something came up and I "expect" she will be back next week. Turns out they don't need me because her replacement has been found and next week she'll be training her to take over her job; she's retiring. So I'll never really find out what the job was supposed to be.
With Gary, I'm frequently finding myself upset or disappointed because I had "expectations" around an evening, a day or even a weekend. A big part of the problem is that I don't express how I "expect" things to go, I just "expect" them to go that way. Sometimes I think it's the logical sequence of events and other times I assume Gary has the same expectations as I do!! Not always so.
The best things in life are unexpected - because there were no expectations. Eli Khamarov
2 comments:
totally with you there sista! huge lesson that still throws the odd curve ball my way.
ameliechante
We should buy ourselves crystal balls (heh), tarot cards and a book of spells - that'll do the trick.
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